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aDHD & aUTISM SUPPORT

self-advocacy coaching, mentorship and consultation support for Adhd & Autism

Much of my self-advocacy work evolves around neurodivergence and, in particular,  Autism, ADHD and what we refer to as AuDHD which is this mix of both. 

What Does Self-Advocacy Work Entail for Audhders?
Many of my clients are late-diagnosed and in need of experiencing that joy and connection that comes with engaging in the reality of neurodivergence well beyond formal diagnostic criteria or the seemingly quirky, awkward or debilitating characterizations on endless checklists that flourish on social media.  That said, other clients experience their autism/ADHD differently and are exploring their way through identity, autonomy and boundaries.   A good number seek me out by way of their parents who are exacerbated with perceived “failure to launch.” For all, I encourage a compassionate perspective that builds on strengths and fosters autonomy, respect and interdependence.  It can take a number of sessions just to identify a liveable framework that captures specific challenges and provides a blueprint for a capable and fulfilling sense of Self and purpose.

The focus in coaching sessions is on the real lived experience of autism and adhd and individualized goals that might center on exploring empowerment and identity;  navigating communication with friends,  colleagues or family;  increasing awareness and understanding of Self, or preventing/managing burnout and overwhelm.  These are just a few of the areas where autistics and audhders find relief, joy and satisfaction with coaching. 

Because everyone is different and circumstances change, I believe in offering a variety of options.  This seems to work best in a neurodivergent world.  Sometimes one on one work makes sense. At other times, working with family members, friends or intimate partners.  Other times in groups.  I can roll with that. This makes sense if we are pursuing an overall integrated experience. 

about your session

Flexibility does not imply guesswork and make-things-up as you go along.  I have over a decade working with neurodivergence and well-being in a variety of settings many of which presented complicated challenges and non-conventional or multi-disciplinary approaches.  My training and experience is specialized as is the nuanced way in which individuals manifest their neurodivergence.  

Coaching or Therapy?
Coaching differs from therapy in a number of ways, but primarily it does not require treating a diagnosis.  It centers more on educating, facilitating, demonstrating.  I love being a therapist and have a thriving practice in which I help many who are diagnosed with various symptoms reflective of trauma, attachment injury, dissociation, disconnection, anxiety and depression.  What I love about coaching is that it can facilitate work where therapy can be quite limiting or even pathologizing when working around insurance requirements which might not put the client at the center of their care and restrict access to certain inventions or cultural considerations.  Some of the neurodivergent experience doesn’t fall neatly into “symptoms” that lend themselves to traditional “treatment.” Indeed, sometimes “treatment” doesn’t appear to be warranted at all.  Coaching can be quite liberating from that standpoint.  Not only liberating, but more relevant and direct. 

autism and adhd support

Autistics & Audhders are not "problems" to be resolved.

Understanding ADHD, Autism & Audhd
So much of the work in which I engage as a consultant/coach is around acceptance of Self and identity.  That doesn’t mean “resigned to.”  Celebration (without delusion), relief and self-compassion might come close to capturing the spirit of “acceptance” that is a lovely outcome of meaningful coaching. 

With over a decade of experience as a trauma therapist, my coaching strategies are informed by clinical experience working with autistics and those with bipolar and adhd.  This clinical experience is primarily somatic in approach and uses somatic interventions that facilitate communication, connection, relaxation and self-awareness, among other things.   It also utilizes brain science.  These strategies are not all intuitive, and in fact, sometimes don’t make “sense,” but they are incredibly useful and in general, not complicated.  They do require  practice and this is one of the reasons that coaching is a great means of helping people acquire these strategies that they can implement in their everyday lives. 

A Word For Family Members
Because I receive weekly requests from family members, usually parents, who seek help for their adult children, it may be worth mentioning a few things here. Let’s start by acknowledging that if you reached out, you love your kids. A lot. And want the best for them. I know. Truly, I know.  It’s scary out there and we want them to do well and not be vulnerable. I do this work because I know the significance of this and that there’s not as much support in our communities as I would have hoped.  It’s 2024 already.  ADHD and Autism aren’t new.  I get it.

Autism and ADHD typically run in families. Many parents don’t discover their own neurodivergence until their child is diagnosed. 

Sometimes parents’ expectations run counter to their children’s.  That can take a number of sessions to untangle.  Autonomy is a thing.  It’s not always the same as independence.  Sometimes interdependence is also something to consider. 

Sometimes getting help or support for your child is part of a lifelong pattern of behaviors that result in the very reason parents seek help for their adult children who have grown accustomed to that help.  They won’t suddenly learn to fly on their own.  But they can.  They really can.

Many parents deserve and truly need support and  compassionate for their experiences.  Sometimes that is equally if not more important than the help for your child. In many instances, this has been lacking or neglected in what is sometimes the stigma and chaos that can be a part of autism/adhd life.  Let’s sort this part out together.

Let’s keep an open mind regarding *support* and what it might look like.  Sometimes the entire family needs help.

Many autistic/adhd adults do really well learning with each other in a group setting.  I currently run groups for neurodivergent adults who thrive figuring out what they want on their own.  

moving beyond conventional perspectives of adhd & autism

what works

This brain science can help bridge the gap between ability and performance which is a challenge for many autistic and adhders. It includes work focused on:
  • Inhibition
  • Increasing working memory
  • Addressing boredom
  • Planning and organization
  • Monitoring tasks
  • Making transitions, and
  • Emotional control
  • If you would like to know more or explore options regarding your neurodivergence or a loved one’s, please get in touch with me via text or email to set up a consult. You can start build momentum towards a more empowering lifestyle right now.

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